In the colourful tapestry of love, red flags stand out like a glaring stop sign. They’re those subtle or sometimes glaring signals that something isn’t quite right.

It’s easy to ignore them when you’re caught up in the euphoria of romance, but acknowledging them is crucial. Whether it’s constant criticism, lack of communication, or a refusal to compromise, these flags are your inner voice screaming for attention. Remember, love should uplift, not weigh you down.

Don’t be afraid to walk away from anything that doesn’t serve your happiness or well-being. It’s better to face the truth now than to regret it later. Your heart deserves a love that’s genuine, respectful, and free from hidden agendas.

Trust your instincts—they’re there to protect you. ❤️✨

Simon Leviev, Israeli con man (Twitter)

Simon Leviev, Israeli con man (Twitter)

 

Tinder has always been a rather cold and oftentimes tricky way to meet people. Especially since it requires having to wade through a sea of strangers, narrowing them down and then holding a conversation with each of them to find out their intentions. Which, in most cases, are not usually pure if you catch my drift…

 

Attempting to not get kidnapped or getting your heart broken while navigating these murky waters can be difficult and, at times, make you question your life decisions. To add to that, as if meeting people wasn’t hard enough, you now have to add “avoid the man who claims he is the son of a diamond mogul” to the list.

 

Simon Leviev, the name on everyone’s lips, is a real piece of work according to Netflix’s new revealing documentary “The Tinder Swindler. If you haven’t managed to sit down and watch it yet, here is a breakdown.

 

Spoilers ahead.

 

The Tinder Swindler Breakdown

 

This documentary tells a story of a notorious conman who used the Tinder dating app to live a life of luxury while defrauding women across Europe.

 

The two-hour movie recounts real-life events of the serial fraudster, Simon Leviev, who managed to con an estimated 10 million dollars out of women that he seduced on the popular dating app.

 

In the documentary, Simon (born Shimon Yehuda Hayut), a convicted fraudster from Israel, claims that he is the son of billionaire Israeli diamond oligarch Lev Leviev on Tinder. Taking women all over the world on private jets and setting them up in five-star hotels while showering them with lavish gifts.

 

After a while of “dating”, he convinces these women that he works in the dangerous diamond business and that his enemies are after him. He then explains that he needs money to escape these enemies. He asks the women to establish lines of credit and loans in their names, and they do so with the promise of being paid back. But that day never comes. 

 

The scandal-based documentary is a recount of shocking, yet heartbreaking events and stories told by Cecilie Fjellhøy, Pernilla Sjöholm, and Ayleen Koeleman, three of the many women who fell victim to the Tinder Swindler.

 

How did he manage to get away with fraud if he was previously convicted?

 

Shimon Hayut jumped from one identity to another to keep the scam going. He was convicted of fraud in Finland under his birth name but carried out his Tinder con under the name Simon Leviev, claiming to be the son of wealthy diamond magnate Lev Leviev. Once his name was revealed in a VG expose, he assumed the name David Sharon to evade the authorities.

 

How did he eventually get caught?

 

One of Simon’s long-term girlfriends, Ayleen Koeleman, saw the VG piece and decided to turn the tables on him. After the story went viral, Leviev had to lay low so he turned to Ayleen, the only woman who he thought he could trust, but she had other plans. She convinced him that she could sell all his designer-brand clothes to make some cash. But instead of giving the money to Leviev, she kept it, swindling the Tinder Swindler herself!

 

As if that wasn’t payback enough, she figured out that Simon was headed for Greece and decided to give his flight information to the authorities. He was arrested in 2019 as a result sentenced to 15 months in prison for fraud in Israel soon after.

 

Simon has now been released from prison after only five months and according to the documentary, has tried since to rejoin Tinder but has subsequently been banned from the app.

  1. Rebound relationships barely ever work.
  2. You need to be 100% committed.
  3. Leave your past in the past.
  4. Heal from whatever caused the breakup and that can take time.
  5. If you are not over your ex you won’t be able to move on.

You need to take time out and make sure you are over your ex… 

If not you will keep revisiting your previous relationship and that can only cause endless problems. 

Take time out to heal and find yourself again. Know exactly what you do and don’t want in your next relationship before running into someone else’s arms… Walk away from your past looking forward to a happier fulfilling future based on unconditional love.

Dating app horror stories have become the norm where cat fishing is one of their popular services. Here are some from my personal experiences:

  1. He was a businessman based in the UK, travelled often, his wife died in a car accident and he had to raise their daughter all alone. 
  2. His picture is one that is used on several dating sites with different names. 
  3. He refuses to do a video call and insists on a normal call. When he does call he has a Nigerian accent.

Unfortunately single women from all over the world have fallen prey to cat fishing on dating sites. These pirañas just don’t stop… The dating app horror stories are endless… To avoid cat fishing, one needs to insist on a video call and this should be done on the day you meet. If not he will lead you along indefinitely, play on your emotions and before you know it you would have wasted months of your precious time talking to a ghost. 

Be very careful who you allow into your space, your relationship, your marriage… irrespective of whether they are married or not they will plot and scheme against you until they get what they want.

If only i had trusted my gut feeling, i could have avoided so much heartache and disappointment that followed. It doesn’t pay to be too kind and trusting towards someone you barely know. HER intentions were always to breakup my home and my family. She wormed her way into our lives and played her game so well until it was all too late. She wanted what i had and sacrificed her marriage for it. Her weeks of pretence came to a grinding halt when her mask fell off and i found out who she really was and what she truly wanted…

A snake in the grass is an understatement for a married woman who pretends to be your friend, who uses any and  every excuse to visit and spend time with you and your family, …only to break up your home a few weeks later.
It takes another level of evil to pull off what she did.
I learnt the hard way and all because i let my guard down.

Yes it takes two to tango but it takes a rare individual to walk into someones home and pretend until she gets what she wants. I firmly believe that what goes around comes around.

💜 Relationships are worth fighting for but you can’t be the only one fighting.

💜 A person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected.

💜 Never make the one you love feel alone, especially when you are there.

💜 You attract true love by radiating true love.

💜 Relationships are always stronger when you are best friends first, and a couple second 

💜 The person who truly loves you will never let you go, no matter how hard the situation is.

💜 The most desired gift of love is focused attention.

“No relationship is a waste of time because if they weren’t what you wanted, it showed you what you needed”

💔 You argue all the time.
💔 He doesn’t trust you – he accuses you of cheating.
💔 He becomes possessive.
💔 He never wants to spend quality time with you.
💔 Uses every excuse not to be at home.
💔 Intimacy becomes an effort and eventually non existent.
💔 He finds fault in everything you do and say.
💔 Communication becomes strained.
💔 He is always on his phone. Takes it everywhere with him.
💔 Lies & secrets become his daily bread.

Cheating is a CHOICE not a MISTAKE…

Never borrow someone else’s man, if he cheated with you,
he’ll cheat on you… Oprah Winfrey

Unfortunately we need to kiss a few frogs before we find our prince. The secret ingredient to this is to know your self worth and never to settle for less…

When you don’t love yourself and don’t set standards for your life, you will keep choosing men who are not good for you. It’s as if you find yourself going around in circles. You looking for love in all the wrong places. The men you find yourself attracted to bring out the worst in you and are in it for the ride only.

It all starts with you. If you are not prepared to work on yourself and make better choices when it comes to relationships then you will constantly open yourself up to disappointment and heartache.

Stop looking outside of yourself for your VALUE…

You don’t find your worth in a man. You find your worth within yourself and then you find a man who is Worthy of YOU…

✖️ You fall head over hills in love with him.

✖️ You worship the ground he walks on.

✖️ You overlook all his faults and give him the benefit of the doubt.

✖️ You forgive him whenever he has an affair.

✖️ You overlook the disrespect that he dishes out so well in front of an audience.

✖️ He never has your back especially when it comes to his family and friends.

✖️ You blame yourself for the way he treats u.

✖️ He keeps his finances a secret.

✖️ He won’t help you financially.

✖️ Its his way or NO way.

✖️ You walk on eggshells around him.

You could move heaven and earth for this man and he still wouldn’t SEE YOU, he still wouldn’t APPRECIATE YOU, he still wouldn’t LOVE YOU.

A man who treats a woman this way is still a “boy” unfortunately… He has serious childhood issues that he has never dealt with. He treats all women the same as he knows no better.

You did NOTHING to deserve this and if loving him couldn’t change HIM, if you wanting to get help for him couldn’t change him and if he seriously doesn’t want to change, then there is no hope for him. You need to do what’s best for you and WALK AWAY…

Before deciding to go into a serious relationship, you should be honest about your past and anything you think that may cause a problem in your future.

Unfortunately the truth always has a way of coming out and what you think you do in the dark eventually comes to light. A relationship based on lies is a ticking time bomb. If you seriously want to be with someone and profess to love them, opening up about everything shouldn’t be an issue.

Start your relationship on a clean slate knowing that there are no skeletons left in your closet.

“When love is real, it doesn’t lie, cheat, pretend or keep secrets”